So Complicated

I have always been fascinated by the working (also sometimes non-working) of our minds. Why? How? are the questions I ask. What are our priorities, motivations, beliefs, desires? Whom do we listen to? What happens when there's a conflict? For example I always wanted to know what's the trade off between time and money. Obviously time is very precious but when is it less precious than money? So too with health. How much health can we lose for making wealth?

What drives us to do what we do? Are there good and bad decisions? If we have taken time and considered all options before deciding and later if it turns out not as we expected, will that be called a bad decision? or bad luck?

Should we let a child grow up 'freely'? Shouldn't we fill his/her head with right and wrong, good and bad? I wonder why it's not fashionable now for children to follow their parents. Children are becoming more independent with time. If they are not within the control of their parents, they are very likely to come under the control of someone else.

Are we ourselves or are we what we want others to think we are. Anyway, I found a very informative article on wikipedia about Defence Mechanism.