Choice Is A Myth

In the film Kandukondein Kandukondein, the character of Soumya played by Tabu says, I haven't chosen my birth, my parents, my feminism, my name etc.. so why must I choose my husband myself.
I found that line interesting. It's true we don't choose anything. I think choice is a myth. We have little control over what we are born with and also what we will acquire, what we will experience and what we will 'get' in general. Yet we expect and set ourselves up for disappointment.
A distant relative was thoroughly disappointed at the birth of a grandDAUGHTER and not a grandson which she expected. Something so completely out of her control. Yet there is a preference. Sometimes, does God listen to our preferences?
He only gives/does what He likes. At most He will make us want what is in our future and give us the satisfaction that we have got what we wanted.